Choosing the Perfect Date For Your Wedding
– by Rachel Cassar

Imagine two weddings—both planned with the same theme, colors, flowers, guests—but one on a golden autumn afternoon and the other on a crisp spring day. Even though they would have so much in common, they would be two totally different weddings, and this is why choosing the perfect wedding date is so important! But with so many factors like weather, availability, price, and pesky holidays and birthdays to consider, finding the ideal date can prove a difficult task. Here are some key considerations to keep in mind as you narrow it down from 365 to the one


Peak seasons and weather

The most popular months to get married are May, June, September, and October because of their generally moderate weather, warm nights, and lack of rainy days. These days make up the peak wedding season, but just because these months are popular, it doesn’t mean they will necessarily be the perfect date for you.


Because of their cold and often unpredictable weather, the winter months have built up a reputation as months to avoid when getting married. But, don’t overlook these hidden gems, especially if your wedding is going to be indoors; cozy fires, snowy outdoors, and warm decorations make for a very romantic and memorable wedding. You can even turn a cold day into a fun opportunity to personalize your wedding even further—spend a little extra on guest comforts such as throws, extra heaters, or a hot chocolate station.


The beautiful, lively feeling of a spring wedding appeals to just about everyone. The gamble is that the weather in these seasons is nearly impossible to predict months in advance, but even still, it may be worth it: if you can land one of those quintessential spring days, your wedding will be utterly perfect.


The summer months are unsurprisingly popular, with their warm, sunny days and equally balmy nights; however, as gloriously beautiful these days can be, if it is 100 degrees, you’ll end up being a sweaty bride with a bunch of hot and sticky guests. Make sure if you are planning on an outdoor wedding that there will be plenty of shade. Also, remember that a hot meal with a warm beverage isn’t quite as appreciated when it’s just a hot outside, so plan your meals and refreshments accordingly.


Autumn has hosted some of the most stunning weddings ever—golden leaves on the ground and the festive feeling of the holidays coming. Especially in September and October, the nights are warm but not humid, and the air has a crispness to it that hints at the coming winter without really reaching the title of cold. The downfall to this season is the peppering of conflicting holidays like Thanksgiving and Halloween throughout its months, and of course having to pull your guests away from football season.


How your date affects costs, and availability.

When it comes to wedding dates, the basic economic concept of supply and demand comes into play: the more popular a month is for getting married, the faster the venues book up those dates, and the higher the costs for those dates will be. As mentioned before, the months from late spring to early fall are the peak wedding season, so they will expectedly be more expensive and often have to be booked more in advance. On the flip side of the matter, getting married in the late fall, winter, and early spring months can be a great way to save on your overall budget. But, for these dates you have to bear in mind that weather can be unpredictable and additional costs may come up: if it rains and you’re wedding venue is outdoors, you might have to pay for a tent for the ceremony.

The day of the week you choose also affects the price range and availability of your venue. Saturdays are the most popular day of the week to get married. Friday evening receptions require people to rush to the event after work, and Sunday weddings are tough to make if people need to travel from out of town. Weekdays are much less expensive and almost always available for booking, but these are often not realistic unless you are having a small wedding and can be certain that your guests can take the day off work.


Although a wedding on Valentines day or New Years Eve can be a fun and festive idea, especially if you got engaged on that holiday, your anniversary is something you’re going to want to celebrate for years to come because of the special date it represents—you don’t want to have to compete with another major holiday on the same date. Another thing to keep in mind is that the holidays are expensive, meaning prices for key things like flowers and catering could do serious damage to your budget. But most importantly, you have to consider you guests. As much as they want to celebrate you, most of them plan on spending time with their families on these days, and many people plan on going out of town. Make your wedding an extra holiday for them to look forward to this year!


Other key aspects to factor in

Time to plan

One thing that cannot be stressed enough is to choose a date giving you enough time beforehand to bring together your dream wedding. A wedding can be pulled together in a pretty short amount of time, but when you have to rush there might be areas you will have to sacrifice in and details you will have to skip over. When choosing your date, consider leaving yourself enough time to plan: it’s better to err on the side of a little more time than too little.

Your specifics

If you’ve narrowed it down to a few candidates, it can be helpful to take account of certain details you definitely want in your wedding—what if your perfect venue is already booked for weekends in June or your favorite photographer is traveling the European countryside in September? Also remember that if you’re married to having a special type of flower in your bouquets and decorations, oftentimes these flowers are seasonal, meaning they will either be unreasonably expensive or impossible to find in their off-months.

Pesky birthdays and important family dates

Unfortunately, your grandfather’s birthday isn’t likely to change from September 1st to December 8th anytime soon, so remember to take into account that if you choose one such day, you’re going to have to share. On the other hand, if there is a special family date or anniversary that is meaningful to you as a couple, getting married on such a date could be really memorable and meaningful.


Focus on how you envision your perfect wedding

When it comes down to it, these are all just ideas and suggestions. You have the final and most important say in deciding on your date, and the most indispensable advice you can take is your own: the way you envision your wedding day—whether there’s snow falling outside the chapel windows or poppies in the field you’re standing in—in the end, that’s what matters most.